Transform Your Relationships:
Think back over the last two weeks. How many times did you experience someone as listening to you in a way that let you know he/she really, truly heard you – not just your words, but the feeling and meaning behind them? Whenever I pose this question to a room full of university students or workshop participants, the majority of people consistently report 0 -2 instances of feeling heard. Yet human beings have a need to feel acknowledged and valued. Regardless of our rank, position, or status in life, we all want to know that somehow we matter. Dr. Howard Tuckman had a rare gift that went far beyond his stellar academic credentials: giving people his undivided attention. I discovered that gift many years ago during a Christmas party hosted by the Economics department at the University of Memphis, where he was a newly arrived distinguished professor and I was a part-time lecturer. As we engaged in conversation amid dozens of festive party-goers, I experienced a new and heady sensation: that I was the most important person in the room to him, and he couldn’t wait to hear what I had to say. I have no recollection of what we talked about, or how long the conversation lasted. No doubt it was only a few minutes. Yet during that brief interaction he transformed my world through the message conveyed by his undivided attention: that I am a highly valued person whose presence matters in this world. Fast forward several decades to today’s world, where people pride themselves on multitasking, where social media and other forms of technology have largely replaced personal contact, and where there never seem to be enough hours in the day. Imagine the positive impact you can have on your staff, your customers, and your family and friends by taking just a few minutes to call a figurative time out. It doesn’t matter what you say; what matters is that you stop everything to focus on the person in front of you. Perhaps it’s a colleague or employee faced with a challenging project, or a customer who feels unappreciated, or a teenager suffering the angst of growing up. Imagine the difference you would make in their lives if you took a few moments to let them know you hear them. Giving one’s undivided attention is a skill that can be learned and improved with practice. Here are some tips to get you started:
By following these steps, you can be the person who gives a priceless gift to others. Your cost: a few minutes of your time and attention. Your rewards: more respectful, trusting, and collaborative relationships, and the satisfaction of knowing that you have made a tremendous difference in the world. I leave you with this challenge: give the gift of your undivided attention at least once a day throughout the coming year. See for yourself how it changes your life and those of others. Best wishes for a happy, safe, productive, and healthy 2015! To find other articles and resources that may be of value to you, I invite you to visit my web site at www.BusinessAlignmentStrategies.com and my blog at www.OptimizeBusinessResults.com. Alignment Solutions is a concise, bi-weekly newsletter written specifically to help organizational leaders optimize their business results. Your e-mail address is never shared with anyone for any reason. You may unsubscribe by clicking the link on the bottom of this e-mail.
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Archive for December, 2014
Alignment Solutions Newsletter: Transform Your Relationships: Give the Gift of Undivided Attention
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Alignment Solutions Newsletter: Why Successful People Operate Outside their Comfort Zones
Wednesday, December 17th, 2014
Why Successful People Operate
Think back to the first time you did something that put you way outside your comfort zone. Perhaps you gave a speech in front of a large audience, or were promoted to a position that required you to supervise your former peers, or became a parent. At some point you probably felt very uncomfortable. Yet that experience made you a wiser, more capable person. The fact is that we learn and grow by testing our perceived boundaries and continually pushing them outward. Forging into the unknown is a scary proposition for most people that definitely forces us outside our comfort zones – though some might find this situation exhilarating as well. Last year I accepted an invitation to see what it’s like to be hoisted 107 feet into the air in a small bucket at the end of a ladder on a fire truck. Even though this opportunity put me way outside my comfort zone (I have a serious problem with heights and did NOT find the experience exhilarating), I took advantage of it because I wanted to learn what these firefighters, my clients, do as part of their everyday job. A number of years ago one of my colleagues said, “I’m learning to become comfortable in my discomfort.” Knowing that his business couldn’t grow if he continued doing only those things he was comfortable with, he chose to embrace discomfort as a constant companion. The lesson: putting ourselves in uncomfortable situations helps us gain valuable perspectives and experiences that result in personal and professional growth. Here are some questions for you to assess your state of continuous learning and growth:
People who embrace living in a near-constant state of discomfort are those who are most likely to be personally and professionally successful. How has your discomfort level helped YOUR business or life? How will you ensure that it continues to do so well into the future? To find other articles and resources that may be of value to you, I invite you to visit my web site at www.BusinessAlignmentStrategies.com and my blog at www.OptimizeBusinessResults.com. Alignment Solutions is a concise, bi-weekly newsletter written specifically to help organizational leaders optimize their business results. Your e-mail address is never shared with anyone for any reason. You may unsubscribe by clicking the link on the bottom of this e-mail.
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Alignment Solutions Newsletter: How to Optimize Business Results
Wednesday, December 3rd, 2014
How to Optimize Business Results
No matter what business you’re in, people are the key to your success. Even organizations that are heavily automated or technology-driven rely on human beings to create the ideas and to run and maintain the equipment and technology that generate the revenue. Because employees’ abilities to achieve their designated goals determine the extent of the organization’s profitability and sustainability, it makes good sense to set your people up for success. To help employees become fully successful, I suggest to my clients that they create an employee-centered workplace®, an environment in which every person, process, system, policy, and program is focused on enabling people to thrive. Such a setting makes good business sense: when workers have management’s full support to use their talents, you end up with delighted customers, engaged employees, and a successful business. How do you create an employee-centered workplace®? Begin by focusing on four areas:
To learn more about creating an employee-centered workplace®, take a look at my article, “The Employee-centered Workplace®: The Key to Optimizing Business Results.” Or take a brief self-assessment that will indicate how employee-friendly your workplace is. To find other articles and resources that may be of value to you, I invite you to visit my web site at www.BusinessAlignmentStrategies.com and my blog at www.OptimizeBusinessResults.com. Alignment Solutions is a concise, bi-weekly newsletter written specifically to help organizational leaders optimize their business results. Your e-mail address is never shared with anyone for any reason. You may unsubscribe by clicking the link on the bottom of this e-mail.
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